I know it has been a long long time since I last posted. I really don't know if anyone is still reading this, but here it goes...
I haven't posted for the longest time because the biggest thing going on in my life is something that I didn't have words for - Timmy and my friends will argue that I have far, far too many words - so at least, I didn't know how to tie it up into a blog post.
Timmy and I have been trying to have a baby for 16 months. And for whatever reason we can't. I am healthy, he is healthy. I just can't get pregnant.
And it sucks. It sucks on a level that I had yet to experience. It is life consuming and demoralizing. It is a loss of expectations. It is disappointment every month. It is unknown and unfix-able. It is peeing on a stick every morning for two weeks for naught. It is such a deep and resounding pain that I can never get a hold on.
I am very lucky. I have a life that is full of friends, family and a great, amazing husband. I have so many joys in my life. But the quiet times between the joys are filled with sadness and waiting.
I know there are many woman out there like me, couples like us, but is such a lonely thing. No one really talks about it. I blather on to my friends about cervical mucus and fertility monitors, but they are mostly in a different place in life and Timmy gets the brunt of my tears and rants.
The thing that sucks the worst is hope. Every month I still expect to get a positive test. Every month I am letdown when my period shows up. Every month I build up hope, maybe this time, maybe this month and I am disappointed. It is hope that hurts the worst.
Next month is our deadline for ourselves to take drastic measures, which for us means drugs and inter-uterine insemination. And then after that I don't know.
I guess I just wanted to give you all an explanation of why I haven't been here. All this has taken up much more of my life and mind space than I ever expected. I didn't think I was the girl who would become obsessed with having a baby, but I guess I am.
Anyway, I am particularly despondent and teary today and I have putting this post off for a long time, so there it is. In all the ridiculous, heart-clutching detail.